Nerd Love

I found my best friend in the whole world and in 21 days I'm going to marry him. We're complete opposites, him an introvert, me an extrovert but we're both huge nerds. I joke when I call us a nerd power couple but its pretty true. D&D/WoW fanatic meets aspiring fantasy writer/critic and con-runner aficionado, we're pretty awesome together. I'm super excited about our future and this next big step.
Tonight is my bachelorette party and it looks like they'll be a good turn out. It seems like almost every post on here says something to the effect of, "I haven't written in a long time, but that's going to change". So this time I'm not going to say anything. I'm just going to do it.
Robert's really helping encourage me to start writing again and I want to. Real life is just so hard to set aside. But I'm going to make a serious effort and keep up with it. Here's the declaration now hopefully I can live up to it. Better clean up the house since the rental company is showing it this afternoon.

Until later...

Does serendipity exist?

I think I've realized that fantasy novels gave me a very clear idea of the kind of woman I would be:
Independent
Pursue a career in what I love
Not take crap from anyone
Somehow become amazing successful doing what I love (success to me is not measured in money btw)

Also it gave me a very clear idea of what kind of guy I wanted to end up with:
Passionate
Talented
Respects me for being who I am
Someone who loves me for me

Now... I think those are amazing things that I got out of reading what I did growing up. (Thanks Mercedes Lackey, I should invite you to my wedding. If I ever have one.) Also recently I've decided that I probably won't get married. I'm going to take a lover. (lol. I'm kidding but really I don't care so much about the wedding, more about finding the guy... eventually. I just think its fun to say taking a lover.)

Anyway that was an interesting side note. What I was getting to was inspired by a conversation with my roommate and the fact that I just watched the end of the movie Serendipity on tv. One thing that I think Fantasy novels doesn't make real enough if how people meet. Or how relationships start. Which is something I really want to do well in my novel. I was rereading a series I read when I was little. There were 8 books in the series and I loved all of them. (Back then when I read them.) Rereading them, there were things I still liked about them but how the people met/fell in love was SOOO unrealistic. A freak hurricane blew his ship off course and he landed on an island which just so happened to have a princess there, who was single and they were perfect for each other. What bull shit! Yes I'm being a cynic here, but really.

So I think that's something that's missing from most fantasy. I like the parody I'm reading right now. Even though again romantically... its very cliche still. Maybe they won't end up together... haha. How negative am I?

Ok I definitely don't want this to end up being a blog about my love life but since love lives in general are driving the sub plot of my novel thinking about this kind of stuff is good. lol. Anyway I'll stop rambling.

Has anyone noticed I might slightly have ADD? I'm very sorry for the side comments. If you've ever experienced me trying to tell a story in person, you totally understand how I write my blog entries.

This is great,

I would totally at least give a guy that would say or actually do this a chance. lol. I recently joined up at the Absolute Write forums and while browsing around came across a post asking for dating advice by a guy with Asperger's Syndrome. I was honest with him and just said that I'm supposed to be normal and have the exact same fear or over thinking that he does. Just goes to show you that dating sucks all around whether you like it or not. But one reply I thought was really clever and cute:

"Well, that's an easy one: [in reference to someone asking about how to take the step from being a friend to a boyfriend]

1: Send her a query letter with all of your basic information. Make sure to include your special traits (snore volume, peck-dance duration, etc.) and remember to include any successful past relationships. Friendships and internet relationships do not count.

2a: Wait three to four weeks. She may ask for a synopsis, so be prepared to write one or have one already prepared (2k words maximum). Include only the important aspects of yourself and your past. Remember, she's probably very busy.

2b: If you do not hear back by then, take it as a rejection and try again. The carpet-bomb query method is NOT advised here.

3a: If she likes what she reads, she may ask to meet you in person. Keep in mind that rejection is not too late at this point, but your chances are quite good.

3b: Refer to 2b.

4: If you're still in the game at this point and the up-front meeting has gone well, congratulations, she's interested! (Note* Future binding contracts may be required, along with multiple-child deals.)"

If you want to read the whole thread this is it:
http://absolutewrite.com/forums/showthread.php?p=2595907&posted=1#post2595907

But I just thought that was pretty amusing and wanted to share. If only dating were that easy. Honestly when you think about it shopping out a novel is a lot easier than dating.

Haha. So if I ever get discouraged about my writing career I'll just look at my love life for the "it could be worse."